The Day I Almost Quit

outsiderscf • October 20, 2025

There was a time I thought I was done coaching for good. This is my CrossFit coaching story — a moment when I almost walked away from the thing I was meant to do, but I chose to never quit .

I was at my previous gym, coaching classes of two or three people at a time. I had hit a wall — not just professionally, but personally. I didn’t feel like I was growing anymore. I loved fitness, but the fire that once drove me to coach, to lead, to pour into people… it was fading.

So, I made a decision: I needed a change of scenery. Not to chase another coaching job — but to chase growth for myself.


A Fresh Start at Outsiders CrossFit

I had heard great things about a gym near Hunt Valley called Outsiders CrossFit. The energy, the community, the training — everything sounded like exactly what I needed to level up.

So I went. Not to network. Not to get hired. Just to train. To be around athletes who would push me, challenge me, and get me outside my comfort zone again.

And that’s exactly what happened.

Within weeks, I felt alive again. My fitness took off in ways I hadn’t experienced in years. I was surrounded by people who wanted to get better — not just stronger, but better.

I even signed up for a local competition. I didn’t expect much, but I ended up performing better than I thought possible. The atmosphere, the people, the energy at Outsiders — it all brought something out of me I didn’t even realize I had been missing.

At that point, I had completely put coaching behind me. I never mentioned to anyone that I had been a coach before. I didn’t want that to define me anymore. I just wanted to show up, train, and grow.


The Conversation That Changed My CrossFit Coaching Story

But I remember watching the coaches here. I admired them — their professionalism, the way they led the room, the culture Stan and Jess had built.

The classes were big — much larger than I was used to — and I remember thinking, “There’s no way I could do that.”
It was a quiet kind of fear. One I didn’t even want to admit to myself.

Then one day, out of nowhere, Stan approached me.

He said, “Hey man, have you ever thought about coaching again?”

I was caught completely off guard. I hadn’t told a single person I used to coach.

He told me he noticed how I did the little things right — how I always touched the 400m turnaround tree every single time we ran, how I never cut corners, how I brought a quiet consistency to everything I did.

That moment changed everything.


Why I Never Quit Coaching

I think about that a lot.

What if I had quit?
Had never walked into Outsiders?
Let that voice win — the one that said, “Maybe this part of your life is over”?

If I had listened to that voice, I wouldn’t be here.
I wouldn’t be doing what I know, deep down, I was put on this earth to do.

Coaching isn’t just what I do — it’s who I am.
It’s the way I connect with people, the way I help them see their potential, the way I get to watch someone do something they once thought was impossible.

And it all almost ended… because I thought my story was finished.


The Lesson in This CrossFit Coaching Story

Sometimes, the best parts of our lives are waiting right on the other side of almost quitting.

You don’t always need to start over — sometimes you just need to show up somewhere new, breathe different air, and let yourself be challenged again.

Because growth doesn’t always look like success.
Sometimes it looks like struggle, uncertainty, and walking into a place not knowing anyone — just trusting that you’re meant to be there.

That was me. And it changed everything.

So if you’re reading this and thinking about giving up — on fitness, on showing up, on something you used to love — don’t.

Your next chapter might just be waiting for you to walk through the door.


A Final Thought

If I’ve learned anything from that season of my life, it’s that our greatest growth often comes from moments of doubt. The truth is, everyone has a point where they wonder if it’s worth continuing — in fitness, in business. But when you push through that breaking point, you find a version of yourself that’s tougher, wiser, and more capable than you ever imagined.


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By Joseph Perez January 6, 2026
Why Most Fail—and What Consistent People Do Differently Every January, gyms fill up. People are motivated. Hope is high. Goals are written down. And by February? Most of those resolutions are gone. So the real question isn’t “Should I set a New Year’s resolution?” It’s this: Do New Year’s resolutions actually work? The honest answer is: sometimes—but not for the reason people think. As a CrossFit affiliate owner, I’ve watched hundreds of people start strong, fade out, restart, disappear, and eventually come back again. Over time, one thing has become very clear: Resolutions don’t fail because people are lazy. They fail because people misunderstand what actually creates change. WHY MOST NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS DON’T WORK Studies consistently show that a large majority of New Year’s resolutions fade by February. Not because the goals are bad, but because the approach is flawed. Here’s why most resolutions don’t stick. 1. They’re built on motivation, not structure Motivation is emotional. Structure is practical. Motivation gets you started. Structure keeps you going. When people rely on motivation alone—“I’m fired up, this is my year”—they struggle the moment life gets busy, stressful, or unpredictable. And life always does. 2. They’re outcome-focused instead of behavior-focused Most resolutions sound like this: Lose 20 pounds. Get in the best shape of my life. Be healthier. Those are outcomes—not actions. You can’t do “lose 20 pounds” on a Tuesday. You can show up to class. When outcomes don’t move fast enough, people get discouraged and quit. 3. They’re all-or-nothing Miss a workout? “I’ve already blown it.” Eat one off-plan meal? “I’ll start again next week.” One imperfect day becomes permission to quit entirely. 4. They don’t account for real life Work schedules change. Kids get sick. Energy dips. Stress shows up. Most resolutions are written for a perfect version of life that doesn’t exist. SO… DO NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS EVER WORK? Yes—but only when they evolve. Resolutions work when they become commitments to a process, not promises of perfection. The people who succeed don’t treat January as a “make or break” moment. They treat it as a recommitment. They understand something important: Progress isn’t created by big declarations. It’s created by repeated, imperfect action. WHAT ACTUALLY WORKS INSTEAD At Outsiders CrossFit, the people who see real, lasting change do a few things differently. 1. They focus on consistency, not intensity They don’t aim to train every day. They aim to train 3–4 days per week. They don’t try to be perfect. They try to be reliable. That’s enough to build strength, improve conditioning, lose body fat, gain confidence, and improve energy. Consistency beats intensity every time. 2. They redefine success Success isn’t crushing every workout or PR’ing constantly. Success is: Showing up when it’s inconvenient. Modifying instead of skipping. Returning after a missed week. That mindset removes pressure—and pressure is what breaks most resolutions. 3. They expect struggle The most successful members don’t avoid hard days. They expect: Low-motivation days. Busy weeks. Stressful seasons. Instead of quitting, they adjust. They don’t ask, “Can I do everything perfectly?” They ask, “What’s the best choice I can make today?” 4. They don’t do it alone People are far more likely to stick to habits when they feel supported, coached, and accountable. That’s why community-based training works better than isolated plans or solo gym memberships. WHY THE “FRESH START” OF JANUARY STILL MATTERS January does matter—but not because it’s magical. It matters because it creates a psychological reset. People are more open to change because it feels like turning a page. The mistake is thinking January has to be perfect. It doesn’t. January just has to be intentional. When people use it to recommit instead of reinvent, simplify instead of overhaul, and build routines instead of chase results, it becomes powerful. WHAT WE BELIEVE AT OUTSIDERS CROSSFIT We don’t believe in “New Year, New You.” We believe in: New year, recommitted you. The version of you who keeps showing up, learns from setbacks, trains for life, and values progress over perfection. That’s why our focus isn’t just January. It’s February. March. June. October. Fitness that lasts. IF YOU’VE FAILED AT RESOLUTIONS BEFORE, YOU’RE NOT BROKEN If you’ve tried resolutions before and always fell off, that doesn’t mean you lack discipline. It usually means you were doing too much, expecting too much, or doing it alone. You don’t need another extreme plan. You need a sustainable one. You don’t need more motivation. You need a system that supports you when motivation fades. FINAL THOUGHT Do New Year’s resolutions work? They work when they turn into habits. They fail when they stay as promises. If you’re looking for a place that meets you where you are, coaches you through real life, and helps you build consistency without guilt—that’s what we aim to be. Not just a gym. A home for people who want to keep going, especially when it’s hard. And whether it’s January or July… It’s always a good time to recommit.
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